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Posted: Tuesday, February 5, 2013 12:00 am

COEUR d'ALENE - School officials in Coeur d'Alene pledged a continuing commitment to eliminating bullying and harassment in district schools after several parents testified at Monday's board meeting that their children have been the targets of bullying and racism.

"Racism does exist, and my next point is, how is the district prepared to deal with it?" said Deon Watson, the father of a bi-racial family with two children attending Coeur d'Alene schools.

Watson's oldest son graduated from Coeur d'Alene High School last year, and is now playing football, on a scholarship, at the University of Idaho. The father spoke of the pain of watching his child be subjected to "racist comments" and bullying, and told the school board not to forget that they serve students of many different races, religions and economic backgrounds.

"Each student deserves an equal opportunity to an educational environment that is free of harassment and bullying," Watson said.

Watson's wife, Anna, also spoke to the board.

She said that while she's grateful for the large amounts of money donated to the sports and activities programs in the district's high schools, it sometimes has unpleasant consequences for some students. When bullying and harassment occurs, the children of large donors are not being held to the same disciplinary standard as others, she said.

"The rules apply to everyone, not just to the kids whose parents don't have money and don't have power, but to all the kids," Anna Watson said. "My son graduated and we went through this all the time he was in high school."

The parents stated their concerns during a board meeting that began with an apology from one of the board members, Brent Regan.

"I made a regrettable comment and some people found it offensive, and I'm deeply sorry for that and I'd just like to take a moment to apologize to you, and the administration, the parents, the students and the teachers for any negative effects that that might have caused you, and distress, and bad reflection on the school district," Regan said.

During a Jan. 26 legislative forum in Post Falls, Regan shared a comment his wife made comparing President Obama to an assault rifle, referring to both as "black" and appearing "scary." Critics cast the comment as "racist" and Regan apologized following the incident.

He told The Press that he had a telephone conversation with a parent who helped him understand how the comment had hurt her children.

That woman was Anna Watson.

Following the meeting, Watson said she felt that Regan's apology was sincere.

"I respect him because he listened to me, and he thought about it. I want to give him a chance," Watson said.

Doneisa Eborall also spoke to the board on Monday.

"I have to speak for my daughter. She was a seventh-grader last year, severely bullied," Eborall said.

She said she took her child to the doctor. There were counselors. Her little girl was put on anti-depressants, and missed 25 days of school one semester because she didn't want to go. Eborall said she had to homeschool her child.

"You have to stop bullying - the racist bullying, the higher class bullying, the girls who think they're better than everybody else bullying. It's affecting my kid," Eborall said.

She said she wants to see her daughter, now in eighth grade, finish school.

"She would go to bed and not want to wake up because she wished that she was dead. She didn't want to deal with the kids," Eborall said. "I think racism, it needs to be addressed. I love this community, but I hate this community. Take some action."

Superintendent Hazel Bauman apologized to the parents.

"It's absolutely not what I want our school system to be. It is not what I condone at any level whatsoever, and I take your concerns very seriously," Bauman said.

Bauman said she has met with some of the parents, and she did take action, meeting with the administration at the school where the allegations were made.

"We devised a plan of remediation. The perpetrators, the students that were accused of being the bullies, were met with and spoken with. Disciplinary action was taken both at the student level and at staff level," Bauman said. "I want to make sure that the audience and the community knows that we took very significant action. Actually in one case, somebody's employment ended."

She said it's a complex problem with no simple answers, and that her own child was bullied when he was in middle school.

"Kids called him gay, and he was in bed crying and I held him in my arms too, and rocked him and told him how my heart was breaking for him. I know personally what it feels like as a parent to see the vulnerability of your child, so I take it very, very seriously," she said.

Bauman said the district is working to address bullying on all levels, addressing race, religion and gender. They are looking at different programs to put in place, and reviewing whether the district has enough counselors to work with the victims of bullying and the perpetrators.

Regarding the allegation that there is "undue influence with financial donations with families of means," Bauman said she and board chair Tom Hamilton are working on a draft addendum to the district's current policy to address the issue. They are working to tie the district's policy to the Idaho High School Activities Association's code of ethics.

"What I said to Superintendent Bauman when we started looking at this, I won't be a man who puts a win-loss record ahead of the character of our coaches, the character of our assistant coaches, and the character of our parents, the behavior of our parents and the behavior of our participants," Hamilton said.

They've come up with several actions addressing this situation that are being reviewed by principals right now, and will then go before the board for approval.

"There won't much grass that grows under our feet in implementing those steps once we're done with that document," Hamilton said.

Hamilton apologized to the parents if the district's response seems slow, but said that a lot of detail has gone into addressing the situation.

"Cultural changes are not easy, and if all we do is pay lip service to this, we have not changed the culture, and I assure you, I won't be done with it until the culture changes," Hamilton said.

Bauman said she would call on the district's finance staff to audit the activities and budgets at the district's secondary schools.

Trustee Terri Seymour became choked up while speaking on the issue.

"I can make a stand right now. It is going to stop, and I will do everything in my power, with this board's help," Seymour said. "It will not continue. That means, whether it be principals, parents, students and teachers. I want it stopped. It needs to stop now, and I apologize and I will do my best to make sure that it stops. I'm sorry. I get very emotional about it because my children were bullied also."

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  • SPUDIO posted at 8:31 am on Wed, Feb 6, 2013.

    SPUDIO Posts: 101

    O.K. how about dover white,creamy vanilla, or maybe you are a little pink how about saharan sunset ,or maybe you are just stark white? I'am so sorry coco and ltr you people is touchy?

  • concernedcitizen posted at 7:32 am on Wed, Feb 6, 2013.

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    There are those that are stakeholders and there are those with their heads in the sand. Either way, they do not see the obvious out of choice or out of ignorance.

  • amber_palmer posted at 12:38 am on Wed, Feb 6, 2013.

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    Bullying is the kind of issue that is never been new to us. This is also the issue that most parents wanted to be tackled and must be stopped from occurring. I do not want my son to be bullied or be part of this fast-growing issue. That is why I provided him a safety service that could protect him and secure his safety. I registered my son to safekidzone because it has a mobile security application that enables my son to summon help from trusted people and with access to the nearest 911 when safety issue arises. For child protection check out:

  • Rationale posted at 10:59 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    Rationale Posts: 1976

    Bullying CAN be wiped out...but not as long as bullies are protected. How do you stop bullying? Bully the bully! WHile everyone says it isn't a solution, it IS, indeed, a solution. When someone understands if they bully someone the punishment will be getting their but ts handed to them in public, they will stop.

    If not, expel the punks and send them to prison where their worthless, punk a$$es belong! Let the inmates take care of them.

  • just one view posted at 10:05 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    just one view Posts: 64

    Concernedcitizen… I do not know if chsteacher went through any “proper channels,” nor do you. We are only left to make assumptions. People are very brave behind their blog names and feel free to say whatever they want. chsteacher said they no longer are teaching in the district so the fear of reprisal from the school district do not exist. If they want to make claims of shady and criminal dealings by the CHS boosters and call people out by name, by all means do so. But their claims have no merit when it’s done in the cloak of a blogger name. I am making the ASSUMPTION that this person probably still teaches at CHS and spent most of their teaching day plowing through the blogs, both a misuse of teaching time and district equipment.

  • Flash Gordon posted at 9:38 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    Flash Gordon Posts: 1680

    Either you weren't around when the issue of the new high school came up and who was going to attend it or you didn't fully understand why Lakes kids got first crack it..........get your facts straight before putting those gnarly fingers to the keyboard:)

  • LTRLTR posted at 7:51 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    LTRLTR Posts: 1171

    someone hides behind the anonymity of the blogs and makes accusations....just one view is hiding behind his/her own words. lol


  • concernedcitizen posted at 5:45 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    How do you KNOW this person did not go through proper channels first? I have seen first hand what going through proper channels does to those that go against the grain in CdA. I have personally stood before the school board as well as served on boards. This may be the only outlet for others that have been publicly chastised for standing against "status quo".

    I applaud any and ALL teachers that will finally make a stand for the RIGHT reasons instead of enriching admin and their friends.

    I applaud ANY teacher that has put up with coaches getting 2-3 times more than academic educators and 10x on the college level.

    Bullying is a way of life demonstrated by our very own community leaders.

    Enough is enough.

  • Flash Gordon posted at 5:35 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    Flash Gordon Posts: 1680

    The upper class neighborhoods were not given more consideration to attend LCHS when it first opened. There was a huge and I mean huge objection to that by the parents of the feeder schools , particularly Lakes Middle School because that school got the shaft year in year out as far as upgrades were concerned. Constructing Canfield came at the expense of Lakes. There was no denying the need for Canfield and eventually Woodland but Lakes continually got the short end of fiscal investment. The Lakes Parents really stood their ground......

    Wealthlier families came unglued and then lobbied for new upgrades to CHS when their kids couldn't go the LCHS.........and well, here we are......

  • just one view posted at 4:49 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    just one view Posts: 64

    Concernedcitizen... I was not belittling a "whistleblower." You can't call yourself a "whistleblower" when you rant your grievances in the blogs. I am calling them out on the fact that they made some pretty strong accusations of shady and suspicious dealings, hinting at illegal, of a particular person by name. If you want to do that, then by all means have the courage to do it in person. If you don't it smells like slander. Most of the rants on here are in general terms but there's was not.
    Bullying and the insensitivity kids have for others who are different is deeply woven in our culture. We a school board member that has a difficult time recognizing a racial remark and another who doesn't want our kids to be taught religious tolerance because his faith is absolute. We need to change the mind set of our culture.

  • LTRLTR posted at 3:53 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    LTRLTR Posts: 1171

    Double standards are every where. Notice the double standards when dealing with law enforcement officers when they commit crimes on and off duty.

  • LTRLTR posted at 3:49 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    LTRLTR Posts: 1171

    Thank you cococo. I was offended too.

  • fedup posted at 3:21 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    chsteacher That double standard doesn't only exist in school athletics but in Little League also. If you don't have money your child gets the shaft!!

  • concernedcitizen posted at 3:10 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    concernedcitizen Posts: 2530

    just one view,

    Here we go, people explain that there is a problem in this town from admin on down, and the stakeholders belittle whistle blowers. There IS a problem in SD-271 just as there IS a problem from the mayor on down in this town. To many people have to much at stake to change it.

  • chsteacher posted at 1:39 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    chsteacher Posts: 6

    I said I had worked at both schools. Didn't say that I was a current teacher. Here is one more item for you to chew on. The districts Secondary Director is retiring. And who is most likely to replace her. The current Principal of CHS. Think any of these problems will be resolved????

  • just one view posted at 1:24 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    just one view Posts: 64

    To chsteacher... It is unfortunate when someone hides behind the anonymity of the blogs and makes accusations of "shady" or inept or illegal practices of others. It's down right irresponsible to do so by saying these are things you've seen personally and accuse people by name. If you want to do this, then have the decency and courage to come out from under the cloak of the blog anonymity and and make a stand. If not, take the names out and just be another nameless rant. Also if you are currently a teacher in the district what are you doing on the blogs at 11:11, 10:33, 9:38, and 9:20. Shouldn't you be teaching? Is this proper use of of school equipment and time?

  • chsteacher posted at 1:21 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    chsteacher Posts: 6

    Jeffery Wherley.... Your correct, bullying is a problem that can't be 100% wiped. My total point is that there is an obvious double standard when it comes to athletics and children of wealthy parents vs. the rest of the students at CHS. Of course both CHS and LCHS will have problems, but my point is that the staff at LCHS seems to cohesive policy to deal with the problem. And when alerted to the problem action is taken by the Administration.

  • fedup posted at 1:08 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    fedup Posts: 2

    The failure to follow district "policies and procedures" is alive and well and living in CDA. The administrators fail to follow their own rules. Do they even know what these policies and procedures are? Do the teachers? Rationale is right, the victims are being treated the same as the perpetrator. If someone gets raped and beaten, are they sent to jail along with the one who committed the crime? NO.
    I suggest that the school board and administrators go back and read their "policies and procedures" handbooks (or possibly read them for the 1st time).
    Policy title: Statement of guiding principles, Policy #: 100 We are committed to children, Therefore: WE BELIEVE... A well educated public is the foundation for a democratic way of life.
    Policy title: Educational Philosophy Policy # 102 "We are committed to the highest standards of respect, responsibility, integrity, fairness, honesty and a principled life in relation to others."
    Please look at Policy title : Student Harrassment, Bullying , Intimdation/threats Policy # 506
    Where in the policy does it state that the bullied should have the same punishment as the bully?
    The teachers and principals are not following their own rules. The teachers are "REQUIRED TO REPORT ANY KNOWLEDGE OF BULLYING, HARASSMENT ETC. TO THE BUILDING PRINCIPAL IMMEDIATELY" I know this from personal experience when trying to deal with my son being bullied and then getting punched in the face and he got suspended for 2 days along with the one who bullied him for days. My son told a teacher and I emailed the same teacher with the bullying problem. Then the asst, principal said that they had no knowledge of the bullying, and if they had, it might have been different. Who is to be held accountable then?? The child who was punched and just tried not to fight??
    Or the teacher, who failed to do his "required" duty? I'm FED UP.

  • peanutbutter posted at 12:36 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    If you for one minute think that LCHS will not sweep an issue of bullying under the rug, or an issue with a student, whose parent is a large donor, or highly affiliated with a large donor ,you are so wrong. This kid walked on water, with not only the administration, but the CPD..that is 100% FACT. This student completely made up a rumor the administration claimed was substantiated. Substantiated by statements of kids who heard it from said child of a donor. FACT, it was not, I have incriminating forms of media to support my claim. The audio would make you sick to your stomach, listening to adults eating out of the hand of this student. There were two other serious issues with this student, both times it was barely a slap on the hand. It's a huge problem and administrators need to pull their heads out of the sand. It was my childs word against the other students...and I'm far from privelaged.

  • Flash Gordon posted at 12:30 pm on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    chsteacher.....the same "politics" that you've experienced at CHS obviously exists at LCHS whether there's a paid "booster" position or not.....I'm having difficulty understanding why you're so clear about CHS and so blind to must have/had some personal on going issues with CHS.

    At both schools most parents won't "complain" because of the repercussions their children will face ("bullying") if they do. What is most disgusting about "all of it" is that some very particular coaches have no difficulty bullying and controlling student athletes under their control and use it as a "weapon" of punishment for going outside the coaching fraternity to do something about it.

    And I guarantee that Lake City High School is absolutely no better than CHS regarding remediation......

  • Curt Slade posted at 11:51 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    It's Curt and we were talking about "bullying and privilege" at CHS and your statments about the athletes there receiving special treatment. The issue at LCHS that I mentioned WAS brought to the school administration's attention but the parent didn't believe his concerns were being considered so he took it up with the superintendent who did, in fact take the charges very seriously and that is the reason you see the school board and district taking action.

  • chsteacher posted at 11:11 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    jeffery.... I have worked at both schools so I have firsthand knowledge. We are talking about bullying here and the reasons that it so prevalent at CHS. If you have "firsthand knowledge" of something wrong at LCHS then bring it to the AD or Principal. I would bet it will not be swept under the rug.

  • capnbutch posted at 10:47 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    You have stated this in a superb manner. Thanks for that. I had to go back and read Voxpop again. Without you I might have missed the value of what Voxpop said.

    Much of the time people post here only to experience the thrill of rudeness to a stranger. You two are doing far better. Thanks to both.

  • Curt Slade posted at 10:46 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    Curt Slade Posts: 57

    chsteacher..... I agree the booster situation has gotten way out of hand and that is why the current school board and district admin have made it a priority to correct these behaviors. I have personal knowledge that there were some serious shenanigans between the athletics dept. and their booster supporters at Lake City H.S. (we're talking people threatening lawsuits) so I find your one-sided angst over CHS's booster problem unfair.

  • chsteacher posted at 10:33 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    chsteacher Posts: 6

    Hey Flash Gordon....... One thing that is different is that the LCHS Boosters raise funds for the school and don't get a salary to do it. Hmmmmmm

  • Rationale posted at 10:10 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    Rationale Posts: 1976

    Well, congratulations! This is what happens when moronic rules are implemented. Congratulations Ms. Bauman and school board...your brilliant idea that a victim of bullying gets the same punishment as the bully shows how stupid and worthless your ideas are! If a child is bullied in Coeur d'Alene, and then has the audacity to stand up for themselves, they get suspended for defending themselves! What kind of brainless thinking is that? It's this rule that has caused this problem, brainiacs!

    Any child guilty of bullying should be sent to Bully Beatdown! Guaranteed that will stop bullying.

    Instead, we get the idiotic idea that only reinforces bullying! Where's the deterrent for the bully when he/she knows the victim gets punished as well? In fact, that's part of their plan.

    Only brainless idiots can't understand that!

  • Flash Gordon posted at 9:57 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    chsteacher.........if you believe Lake City is any different than CHS then you're in denial and don't know the school district very need to get out of that cloistered environment over there and get to know your community at every "educational" level......

  • cococo posted at 9:40 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    cococo Posts: 148 words coming from a "RACIST" himself.
    "LILLY" White.....really ????.....I'm white and I find that to be an offensive description of my I'm waiting for my apology..........Well?

  • chsteacher posted at 9:38 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    chsteacher Posts: 6

    There is a completly different feeling coming from the kids, teachers and Administration at Lake City. One has to wonder why. I think it has to do with the current Administratin and how the school is run.

  • Armywife posted at 9:21 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    My daughter went to school at Coeur d’Alene High School not saying that this happens just at one school and not another, but I went to the school for registration and told them that there was an issue that I did not want this particular girls locker by my daughter and I wanted to make sure that their lunch and scheduled classes were seperate. I did everything that I could to keep this girl away from my daughter so I thought. First day of school the girl’s locker was just down from my daughter, lunches were the same they were even some of the same classes. I immediately went to the school to see if they were testing my patients or what. I got the excuse of “we have so many kids” did not really care to hear it. Then my daughter started skipping school and saying that she was sick. This was becoming a huge problem. I have always told my daughter don’t fight. Since I wasn’t getting anywhere with the school, I told my daughter that she was to go to school and if that girl said one cross thing to her that she was to lay her out. The girl knocked my daughter’s books out of her hands, they were in school about 45 minutes and I received a call from the resource officer. I thought perfect maybe we will get something done here. When I arrived at the school they wanted to suspend my daughter, I was livid they let this girl tormented my daughter for a months then they want to suspend her for fighting (?). I pulled my daughter from Coeur d’Alene and placed her in Lake City High School. We had very minimal problems there but I will say that Lake City was more aware of what is going on with their students than Coeur d’Alene could have ever been.

  • chsteacher posted at 9:20 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    This problem goes much deeper that of "all kids go through it". There is a culture of bullying and privilege at Coeur d'Alene High School that is fostered by the Principals and ultimately the Superintendent. Time and time again I have seen kids whose parents are wealthy avoid discipline for their actions or receive lesser penalties. The Principals are unwilling or unable stand up to the pressure brought by the parents. I can only conclude that the Principals are inept or do not receive the needed backing from the Superintendent to stand up to these parents.

    This problem does not end with children of the wealthy. There is a "win at any cost" culture when it comes to sports. This comes from the Athletic Director Todd Gilkey to the head of the Boosters Chris Costa. I have personally seen both Gilkey and Costa recruit kids who they consider top athletics from the middle schools and junior tackle teams. These kids are told that if they come to CHS they will be on varsity as freshman and be able to play right away. They are told if they go to Lake City they will have to start on the freshman teams and not play at the varsity level for two years. Recruiting is against District and State policy but the Administration has turned a blind eye to the action for years.

    And does anyone think there is something wrong with the head of the Boosters, Chris Costa, being paid $30,000 a year for the position? Granted he is paid from the CHS Boosters and not with school district funds, but to me this just smells fishy.

    The needed changes at CHS will be hard. We need a Principal with intestinal fortitude and firm backing from the Superintendent to clean up the problems. I often wonder why these problems are much more prevalent at CHS than LCHS. When you visit Lake city High School there is a completely different feeling coming from the kids, teachers and School Administration.

  • DeNiles posted at 9:17 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    Persistent bullying exists for the same reasons that a lot of misbehavior exists in our public schools - there's no real discipline. When teens have no fear of serious repercussions they will always push the boundaries of bad behavior. We hear this constantly, instructors fear administrative backlash in trying to keep a controlled classroom.

    Still........ kids and young adults need to learn how to manage themselves around aggressive people in ways that defuse or redirect such ugly behavior(s). Bullies do not disappear after high school. Learning how to deal with cliques, manipulators, back stabbers and outright meany's is just plain part of life so it has to be part of growing up. Shucks Mike kennedy is a type of Bully and certain people just adore the man especially for how successful he is as a Bully.

    I read in this article no examples of how these kids experienced racial taunting in school. The older child seems to have succeeded fairly well. If I had a kid who that experienced a racially charged taunt in school I'd be in someone's face the very same day I learned about it. So tell us what happened. What was done - how did you respond - when did this occur - what did the school learn - how did things change (or not)??????

    Do not come here crying 'racism' without any examples. It is an ugly thing. We need and we deserve to have the whole story. Then again this is the CdA Press and the 'R' word gets casually inked up on a whim. Gotta love a local newspaper that grievously insults the community without providing any facts.

  • concernedcitizen posted at 8:22 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    You people act like Idaho is the ONLY place in America that this happens, has happened or WILL happen. JEEEZ Get out and see the world man. Idaho is nothing special when it comes to ANY kind of bullying.

    Only in Idaho is there racists of ANY kind
    Only in Idaho is there a recession
    Only in Idaho is there poverty
    Only in Idaho is there bullying
    Only in Idaho ........

  • SPUDIO posted at 8:06 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    Vox just saying but growing up in CDA a minority would

    probably be just a little different than your (I'm just assuming you are lily white) upbringing wherever you were raised.Heck I grew up here and had a friend who was Italian,dark skinned and I remember kids calling him the n word and he fought over that alot! Nope it probably wasn't all "sweetness and light" for him either butch late 60's - 70's what I would tell you is just watch what you say and you won't have any trouble with these left-wing extremest's!And of course don't punch anybody.

  • Curt Slade posted at 8:04 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    @voxpop, I actually find myself agreeing with you! I deal with jerks on a daily basis at my place of employment and if I hadn't learned to tough out all the slings and arrows I suffered thoughout my primary and secondary ed. years I'd be a blubbering mess at the end of each day. Coping skills are an extremely important tool we, as parents must provide our kids.

    @Veeeee, Excuse me but it is the belief of many in our community that Brent Regan IS one of our best members. I strongly feel you should quit being so intolerant of conservatives. Thank you.

  • Flash Gordon posted at 7:54 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    The irony of this "situation" does not go unnoticed. The credibility of our school district board members rests with a satisfactory and fair resolution of this persistent and generational issue within not only our school district but districts throughout the whole of our culture.

  • mister d posted at 7:36 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    Heh heh heh, when you look at the bullies and their comments on this site, is it any wonder the kids aren't bullies also.

  • capnbutch posted at 7:10 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    capnbutch Posts: 729

    Sounds like all sweetness and light, doesn't it?

    Unfortunately, political activists hijack this kind of thing and it goes entirely off the rails to hurt even the most innocent.

    The folks who wanted to provide social and legal protection against sexual mistreatment meant well and earnestly wanted to do something good. They wanted so badly to prevent heartache that they allowed unscrupulous political activists to add subtle twists. Sexual harassment law is now like the jaws of a shark; There's a single, all encompassing way in but no way out once you are accused, innocent or guilty.

    Among the subtle, ugly twists is the fact that sexual harassment law as it applies in the school, church or workplace establishes that the person accused by a peer has no innate right to know the charge or even the name of the accuser.

    You can be accused and have absolutely no right to defense. In the vast majority of cases, people accused just capitulate. This may mean that a key leader is unable to continue. Companies close and entire workforces dismissed because of this kind of thing and it never reaches media. You will never know unless you are a target or lawyer.

    In a very genuine sense, leaders are being bullied by this law.

    One cruel example of inappropriate political activism in the sexual harassment field is the word, "tease." Small but extraordinarily wealthy activist organizations have worked for more than 30-years to change the definition. Now, tease, as taught in lower schools means sexual harassment. True; most dictionaries have not picked up the new language but some have. One is a cheap Random House dictionary. That's enough to make it into the courts when a child or young adult thinks that laughter is sexual and harassment.

    It pays to discuss these things at length with the social activists. We are doomed if we don't.

  • concernedcitizen posted at 6:13 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

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    "She said that while she's grateful for the large amounts of money donated to the sports and activities programs in the district's high schools, it sometimes has unpleasant consequences for some students. When bullying and harassment occurs, the children of large donors are not being held to the same disciplinary standard as others, she said."

    FINALLY someone else sees it and speaks up. SOME teachers give preferential treatment to donors children or athletes children. It is time for it it stop.

  • Veeeee posted at 6:01 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    Veeeee Posts: 423

    I'm happy to hear the district underscore their commitment to addressing each and every incident of bullying. I'm well aware of children and adolescent social development and that communication and relationship evolves through trial and error...but overt threatening behavior and bullying has to be immediately addressed and parents of those involved need to be immediately contacted...each and every time. I had an experience with my elementary school daughter where that was not the case...I wasn't contacted and that's inexcusable. On a different note, having a school board member that has to apologize about an inappropriate "race joke" at a meeting where racism and bullying is the topic is an absolute joke. I strongly feel he should resign and head down the road...but that won't happen likely until he believes he has "saved face" and I can only hope that is soon. The board is reserved for only the best of the best community members and the way he acted publically demonstrates we don't have that quality on the board currently. Thank you.

  • voxpop posted at 5:32 am on Tue, Feb 5, 2013.

    voxpop Posts: 738

    ALL children go through this, not just "minorities." If you don't learn to stand up for yourself then you aren't going to be able to deal with life. It's far worse for parents to pat Johnny or Jill on the head and tell them how unfair it is that everyone is racist or a bully. It will be their excuse for everything that doesn't go their way for the rest of their life.

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