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Posted: Friday, July 13, 2012 6:15 am

Five years ago this month, July 2007, my son Levi set off with some friends to float the river. By that evening, both our lives had changed forever ...

Levi was driving home that night and was involved in a tragic car accident. There are no words to express the depth of grief I felt and have endured since then when I received a call from the local sheriff that night. I am forever thankful my neighbors were home and provided me with the support I needed in that moment and the days to come. Arriving at the hospital I found my son, my Levi, on life support. Five days and countless hours of prayer later Levi was removed from life support. I wondered how I could survive such a loss.

I had raised my son as a single parent from the time he was four after his father, my husband, passed away from complications from his diabetes. Suddenly I was left with the responsibilities of mother, father and sole provider for our family of two. Single parenthood presented many hardships and difficulties but Levi and I survived them all. I was and am proud of the fine young man Levi had become.

It is hard to believe it has been five years since his passing. My mind often drifts to imagining the man he would be today — would he be married? Would he have children? Would he still live in the area? Would he still be driving his first love? Would he have his own business? In watching my friends with their grandchildren, I am reminded that Levi himself was a miracle child. The doctors gave my husband and I a 10 percent chance of ever conceiving, but God had other plans and gifted us with the most precious gift of all, Levi. The everyday memories are the ones I cherish the most — his laughter, his mischievous smile, his generous spirit, his appetite for life itself.

Every day brings more healing. The loss of my son has changed my life but I have come to realize that God has a purpose for me. I look forward to exploring that purpose every day. I have kept writing as a way to keep his memory alive and as I right I find myself remembering things I had long forgotten. Some memories have been easy to write, others more difficult. My first book, “Healing in the Storms,” has given me a new sense of purpose, a way to remember the good, and move forward to the future. I am most grateful for my readers, those who have come forward to share with me how my story has touched them, helped them, and healed them in their own journey of loss and remembrance. I am a blessed woman.

Julie DeGon is a Post Falls resident.

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7 comments:

  • HealingInTheStorms posted at 12:36 pm on Tue, Jul 17, 2012.

    HealingInTheStorms Posts: 1

    Dear VOXPOP, thank you for commenting on my story, and I appriciate your honesty. I was not placing an ad for my book, but my book is full of wonderful stories about my son Levi, and is a part of who I am, so I would be hardpressed to leave it out. I apologize if it made my story less inspirational for you, as that was not my intent. I hope that despite your view, my story can inspire you, thank you for reading and I hope life is good to you. Julie DeGon

     
  • katiesmom posted at 6:55 am on Tue, Jul 17, 2012.

    katiesmom Posts: 19

    To lose a husband, then your child...unimaginable. To use writing as a tool to help you with it all is wonderful. To jerks that have to post sarcastic remarks...move along.

     
  • GarwoodMom posted at 9:33 am on Sat, Jul 14, 2012.

    GarwoodMom Posts: 12

    Hi voxpop - I think you missed the mark on this one. The focus of the article is that she found a new purpose in life by writing books, not that she's seeking pity for the tragedy in her life. Her story moved me to tears, and I think it's wonderful that she found a way to heal her pain.

     
  • wheels1 posted at 7:26 am on Sat, Jul 14, 2012.

    wheels1 Posts: 403

    voxpop, why don't you confine your remarks to that dark hole you live in.What is wrong with you.

     
  • voxpop posted at 10:56 am on Fri, Jul 13, 2012.

    voxpop Posts: 738

    There is nothing that compares to the loss of your own flesh and blood, in particular a child. Sorry for the cynicism but I would have more sympathy if you had left out the ad for your book.

     
  • Timeless posted at 8:07 am on Fri, Jul 13, 2012.

    Timeless Posts: 477

    Word escape me. Peace to you.

     
  • Paterfamilias posted at 7:52 am on Fri, Jul 13, 2012.

    Paterfamilias Posts: 13

    I am so sorry for your loss. My wife and I also lost our son Ethan. Its been 12 years since he died. Its the memories we didnt get to make that i miss the most. I wonder constantly what he would be doing today...had he lived. I really miss him.

    Its true what you said about purpose. If you are living and breathing here on earth...then there must be a reason that God has not chosen to take you home. You are here to live life fully as you achieve God's purpose for your life.

    Life is but a vapor and soon we will be rejoined with our sons to make an eternity of memories with our loved ones in heaven.

     
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